“Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long
run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a
time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it
appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I don’t know Kate
Harcourt.
But I know her
story. And if you don’t, I recommend you do.
Early December,
Kate was a mother of three, a loving wife with boundless enthusiasm an endless
passion for her children’s growth and nurturing, directing her to press pause
on her teaching career.
It’s mid-July. Kate
is still a mother of three, a loving wife and still possesses an endless
passion for her children’s growth and nurturing.
But the boundless
enthusiasm is a work in progress and teaching career is still on pause.
Plans for a trip to
China have also been on hold, as Kate, back in December, felt ready to welcome
2015 with fresh hopes and aspirations.
On December 9, in
the shower and mid-scrub, Kate’s world turned upside-down in the form of a lump
beneath her right armpit.
Some questions in
this world, you’ll never get answered; it’s answers to complex, too significant
for our insignificant minds to process.
You just accept the
sun means day and the moon and stars mean night.
You accept that a
smile means joy and tears means it hurts. Most of the time.
I don’t accept
cancer. I don’t accept that for all the villainous, unmotivated, hate-driven
people in the world, it seems that it’s always the good ones who this
infuriating disease seems to always infect.
But for this
unwillingness to accept; stubbornness is quickly overshadowed by realism, much
like Kate’s life became blanketed by a disease that is only superficially
understood by the other half of men and other two thirds of women, who’ve been
pigeonholed by statistics not to be
affected by cancer.
It’s a word and a
disease that sends a shiver down our spine before we investigate its
aggressiveness, location and severity.
I remember sitting
in the school theatrette in Year 12 and being numbed by my English teacher,
Rosanna Comastri’s announcement that she had developed cancer.
I remember sitting
in the Carlton Football Club theatrette just a year later when Sam Rowe forgot
pre-planned jokes, and fought back tears to tell teammates – grown men he’d
just met – that he’d development cancer.
Both Rosanna and
Sam are alive and well. Rosanna has continued pursuing her passion for
education and the spiritual development of young men and women. Sam is in the
leadership group at Carlton and shies away from descriptions of being labelled
‘courageous’.
For something that
I don’t have first-hand experience of – and I hope I never happen to – both of
these two and, in my most recent observation, Kate, carry ‘courage’ in spades.
Three weeks
following the confirmation of her worst fear, Kate put pen to paper. Not to
wallow, not labour in self-despair, but to recall, and to give a helping hand.
Kate’s blog Cancer Cans is (currently) a
blow-by-blow journal-like depiction of her eight-month journey of a woman who
has witnessed hell and is passing through customs, on her way back to her
normal life.
A keen writer with
an eye for detail and a no-holds-barred excellence for description, Kate takes
you on an expedition that is well-researched in its explanation, light-hearted
in its prose, raw in its honesty and contains an open-endedness at the
conclusion of each blog post that leaves you wanting more.
It’s not the
voyeuristic curiosity of an audience reading Confidential, it’s Kate’s ability to bring the audience into her world
where the reader is taken through every road bump and every minor celebration.
Each experience carrying as much weight as the next.
Almost 16,000
Australians – men and women – have been diagnosed with breast cancer already in
2015, with a six per cent figure losing their battle.
Kate’s story could
just as easily dissolve into the many other cases of the hideous disease. But
it’s the want to vocalise the trials, tribulations, roadblocks and
celebrations, plus the motivation to provide support for those who have
suffered a similar fate – in first- or second-hand experience – that makes her
tale stand out.
Just as momentous
is the establishment of the charity in her name, Something For Kate – a not-for-profit foundation set up by school
friends with the backing of independent brands, the National Breast Cancer
Foundation and Australian singer-songwriter, Kate Cebrano.
The foundation was
set up at the beginning of this year by Kate’s school friends, empowered to
raise funds for the support of her family and the contribution to funding
research for breast cancer.
In a week where
human compassion was tested on a national scale, no such doubts could be raised
over the values of Kate’s support network.
On Sunday 11
October, Something For Kate will come
together for gala fundraising luncheon.
Kate’s latest blog
posts detail the overwhelming emotion she feels at the deserved generosity being
directed her away, as well as continuing to embark on her road to recovery
involving doing the things that were taken away from her for the best part of
six months.
The opening line to
her last post – just as much as her story – poses an energising question to all
of us who can feel rutted by this weathered path that is life: when was the
last time you did something for the first time?
So Kate, from
someone who does not know you, but knows your story, thank you.
This may not be on
behalf of all breast cancer sufferers, but on behalf of someone who can feel
like the world is against them from time to time.
It’s not over until
it’s over, and for Kate – strong in character and articulate in her fight – ‘over’
is still a long way away.
The Something For Kate Gala Luncheon will be held at
Maia waterfront restaurant, Central Pier Docklands on Sunday, October 11.
Tickets include a live auction and live entertainment Kate Cebrano, plus a
two-course lunch and three-hour beverage package. For full information on
ticketing and the event, contact Rebecca 0405 099 938 or Kerry 0403 608 467.